After seven years working in the summer camp industry, I've had a front-row seat to watching kids grow into confident, independent, and capable humans away from their guardians. But I've also noticed two common mistakes that well-meaning adults make when trying to help kids succeed: they overprotect them from every possible challenge, and they define success too narrowly. The good news? There's an easy way to fix both—and it involves letting kids step outside their comfort zones and into places that encourage real growth (hint: like summer camp!).
Mistake #1: Overprotecting Kids from Life's Little Bumps
It's natural to want to shield kids from hardship. But sometimes, we go too far—eliminating every discomfort, micromanaging their schedules, and ensuring they never have to struggle. The result? They miss out on the small failures and problem-solving moments that build confidence and resilience.
In camp environments, I've seen firsthand how kids flourish when given independence. They navigate challenges like making new friends, learning to paddle a canoe, or figuring out how to survive without their phones for two whole weeks (a true feat!). These experiences teach problem-solving and perseverance—skills far more valuable than simply acing a math test. Evolving requires a balance between support and opportunities for self-sufficiency. Dr. Sarah Bishop has a wonderful article expanding on the importance of "preparing your child for the road, not the road for the child". Read more here.
Mistake #2: Defining Success the Wrong Way
Too often, success is measured in trophies, grades, or prestigious college acceptances. But real success looks different for every kid. Some kids shine on stage, others in science labs, and some find their spark deep in the woods, building a fire for the first time.
One of the most important things caretakers can do for their kids is find an environment where they "shine". Camp is one of those environment that does that—it helps kids discover what lights them up, away from the pressures of test scores, extracurricular overload, and dare I say it- parents.
Why Summer Camp is the Ultimate Confidence Booster
Camps like Camp Lincoln and Camp Lake Hubert are designed to be "shining places." Here's why:
- Kids get to try new things. Whether it's archery, sailing, or drama, camp offers a variety of activities that help kids discover hidden talents.
- They learn resilience. Overcoming homesickness, working through team challenges, and trying again after falling down on waterskiis—all these experiences build mental toughness.
- They become part of a supportive community. Camp friendships are some of the strongest bonds kids form, helping them feel seen, accepted, and valued.
How Adults Can Encourage Growth Without the Stress
So how can you help kids build confidence and independence without creating a pressure cooker environment?
- Let them explore. Instead of curating every experience, allow kids to try new things and figure out what they love.
- Embrace failure as a learning tool. A scraped knee or a tough day isn't the end of the world—it's part of growing up.
- Prioritize joy over pressure. When kids feel free to play, learn, and experiment without stress, they're more likely to discover what truly excites them.
Give Kids the Gift of Independence
If you want kids to grow into confident, capable young adults, give them the opportunity to experience independence in a supportive environment. Summer camp is one of the best places for that to happen. At Camp Lincoln and Camp Lake Hubert, we see kids thrive every summer, developing life skills, friendships, and confidence that last a lifetime.
Ready to give your child an unforgettable summer? Learn more about our programs and how they help kids shine!
